MLK Day Inclusion to Make Love a Priority

Dr. King’s Warning about Why Silence Matters When Inclusion Becomes Conditional

MLK Day and Make Love a Priority

Martin Luther King Jr. Day, a federal holiday that took years of advocacy to establish, calls us to reflect on what it means to make love a priority. Dr. King’s legacy reminds us that love is not passive sentiment but active commitment. Love requires courage. Love demands that we stand with those who are excluded, that we speak when silence would be easier, that we prioritize human dignity over social comfort.

The recent exclusion of a Jewish religious leader from a civic celebration honoring Dr. King’s legacy presents a stark test of what these commitments mean in practice. Will we gather together, or enforce selective inclusion? Will we love one another, or only those whose presence creates no discomfort? Will we advocate for true peace, or settle for the illusion of harmony purchased through exclusion?

A Letter on Exclusion, Courage, and the Long Shadow of Justice

January 2026

My Dear Friends,

The Letter from Birmingham

More than sixty years ago, on April 16, 1963, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. wrote from a narrow jail cell in Birmingham, Alabama, to fellow clergy who believed his actions were “unwise and untimely.” He wrote not to inflame, but to explain, to patiently answer the charge that his presence created tension and that his voice endangered order.

He reminded them then that injustice does not disappear when it is ignored, that tension is not created by those who expose wrong but by the wrong itself, and that exclusion carried out in the name of peace is still exclusion.

The Moral Question Today

Today, though the setting has changed and the language has softened, the moral question remains strikingly familiar.

In Birmingham, Dr. King was told he was an outsider, that his presence might provoke disruption, that progress required patience, and that dialogue could occur only once tension subsided. In our own time, a Jewish religious leader was invited into a public civic space honoring Dr. King’s legacy, only to have that invitation withdrawn, not for words he intended to speak, but for beliefs he openly held and never concealed.

Nothing about those beliefs changed. What changed was the willingness to include him when inclusion required courage.

Dr. King wrote that one of the great tragedies of his time was not the hostility of the extremist, but the silence and caution of the moderate, those who preferred a negative peace, the absence of tension, to a positive peace, the presence of justice. He warned that appeals to order, when severed from justice, become barriers rather than bridges.

Unmistakable Parallels

The justification offered then sounds painfully familiar now: concern about disruption.

In Birmingham, the concern was that demonstrations would disturb civic harmony. Today, the concern is that a Jewish voice affirming Jewish self-determination might make others uncomfortable. In both cases, the solution offered was not to confront intolerance, but to remove the person whose presence exposed it.

Dr. King rejected the logic that blames the marginalized for the backlash against them. He asked whether society should condemn the robbed man because his possession of money provoked theft. He insisted that the responsibility lies not with those who seek dignity, but with those who deny it.

When a rabbi is excluded from a civic ceremony because others refuse to share space with him, the issue is not logistics. It is not neutrality. It is the outright enforcement of a moral litmus test, one applied only to certain identities, at certain moments, when favoritism shows up because inclusion becomes inconvenient under the guise and excuse of “safety or protection.”

Dr. King also warned against the dangerous belief that time itself will heal injustice. “Wait,” he wrote, has almost always meant “never.” He insisted that justice delayed is justice denied, and that progress requires pressure, not hostility, but moral pressure born of conscience.

The parallels are not exact, but they are unmistakable.

Then, as now, a faith leader sought to participate peacefully in public life. Then, as now, he was told that his presence, not his conduct, was the problem. Then, as now, exclusion was justified as prudence. Then, as now, the deeper cost was borne not only by one individual, but by the moral credibility of the community that excluded him.

The Beloved Community

Dr. King believed deeply in the Beloved Community, but he never confused unity with uniformity, nor peace with silence. He understood that true community is forged not by avoiding disagreement, but by refusing to sacrifice dignity for comfort.

A celebration that bears his name cannot honor his legacy while repeating the very patterns he condemned.

This is not a call for outrage. It is a call for reflection. It is an appeal, as Dr. King once made, to conscience rather than convenience, to courage rather than caution.

History does not repeat itself precisely, but it does echo. And the echo we hear today asks the same enduring question it asked in 1963:

Will we choose order over justice, or justice that leads to true peace?

Shared With Respect

The Fundamental 5 for Humanity

The Fundamental 5 for Humanity
1. Gather Together

This speaks to inclusion, the fundamental human right to assemble, to be present, to participate. When we exclude voices from the table, we violate this essential principle of our shared humanity.

2. Love One Another

This is about love and care extending beyond intimate relationships. Love must reign in all human interactions. It is a priority, not a preference. Even in civic spaces, professional settings, and public discourse, love for our fellow human beings must guide our choices.

3. Advance Humanity

We gather to solve problems and move humanity forward. Progress requires the participation of diverse voices and perspectives. When we silence or exclude, we limit our collective capacity to advance.

4. Advocate Peace

We peacefully work and live together. But peace is not merely the absence of tension; it is the presence of justice. True peace requires the courage to include, not the comfort of exclusion.

5. Feel God’s Grace

This honors the spiritual dimension of human life and the respect we owe to another’s belief system. It recognizes that faith, identity, and conscience deserve protection, not punishment.

MLK’s Legacy

MLK Quote - Silence

“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”

— Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial Forest in Israel

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”

The Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial Forest in Israel was completed with the planting of 10,000 trees in 1978, ten years after his death, by the Jewish National Fund. He is memorialized in trees and remembered on the Martin Luther King Holiday. February has the Jewish Holiday of Trees.

Israel is the only country in the Middle East that has named a street after Dr. Martin Luther King. It is located in the capital, Jerusalem.

Martin Luther King Street in Jerusalem
MLK Memorial Forest Israel

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”

The words of Dr. King remind us that exclusion, silence, and fear only deepen the darkness they claim to prevent. Only the courage to show up with love, too make love a priority even when it is uncomfortable, has the power to transform conflict into justice and peace.

A Call to Your Own Reflection

Reflection

These questions are offered not as accusations, but as invitations to honest self-examination. They ask us to consider whether we are living as good citizens of the world or harboring attitudes that diminish our shared humanity.

  1. When someone’s presence makes others uncomfortable, do I ask first whether the discomfort stems from legitimate concern or from prejudice that should be challenged rather than accommodated?
  2. Have I ever remained silent about injustice because speaking up would create tension, cost me social capital, or make others think less of me? What was the cost of that silence?
  3. Do I judge people based on their identity, national origin, or religious beliefs rather than on their character and actions? Am I willing to examine where those judgments come from?
  4. When I hear about someone being excluded from a public space or event, do I ask what they did to deserve it, or do I ask whether the exclusion itself is just?
  5. Am I more committed to maintaining peace and avoiding conflict than I am to ensuring justice and dignity for all people, even when justice requires difficult conversations?
  6. Do I apply different standards to different groups of people? Do I hold some identities to tests of acceptability that I would never apply to others?
  7. When I encounter beliefs or perspectives that differ from my own, is my first instinct to exclude, to engage, or to learn? Am I willing to share space with people whose views challenge me?
  8. Have I ever excluded someone, withdrawn an invitation, or distanced myself from a person not because of their behavior toward me, but because of what others might think if I associated with them?
  9. Do I harbor hatred or contempt for any group of people? If so, can I trace that feeling to actual harm they have done to me personally, or to narratives I have absorbed without questioning?
  10. Am I willing to stand with someone who is being unjustly excluded, even if doing so costs me comfort, convenience, or approval? What would it take for me to find that courage?
  11. When I think about "the other"—whoever that is for me—do I see fellow human beings deserving of dignity, or do I see abstractions, threats, or obstacles to my own peace of mind?
  12. If Dr. King were alive today and asked me directly whether I am contributing to the Beloved Community or complicit in its opposite, what would I honestly say?

Sources, January 2026

This letter inspired by a post by Sandi Masori